A private one-day intensive
One situation. One full day. You leave with the decision, or a direction you can trust, and the first real move prepared.
You know exactly what it is. You have known for a long time. And you still have not moved.
I open only a small number of dates at a time.
“I had been stuck on a very important life-altering decision for some time, and it was beginning to seem like I would never resolve it. A friend recommended Andrea, so I called her. Ten days later I found myself flying to Prague, wondering if I had gone completely mad. Afterwards I could clearly see what I needed to do.”
a private client, after one of these daysIt might be:
Bring it as it comes. It does not need to be tidy.
You have probably read the things, asked the two or three people whose judgement you trust, made the list with the two columns, and typed the whole of it into a machine at eleven at night.
None of that is wasted. It is also not what moves anyone, because knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different problems, and most of the help out there is for the first one.
In my experience it is very rarely the thinking. It is what it would cost. Who it would disappoint. A promise made a long time ago and never taken back.
And talking to a machine costs nothing and ends nothing. It is patient for ever, at any hour, which sounds like kindness and is the whole problem. It will let you go round this for another year and never once make you stop.
The machine hands you a map. Just that. I get you to decide, and to take the first step across.
One more thing. What looks like a circle is usually a spiral. Each turn sits a little higher than the last, which is why you know more now than you did a year ago, and why it can still feel like the same place.
If another book, another conversation or a better question could have settled this, it would have been settled by now.
A day is long enough for the whole thing to come into the room: what you say you want, what you are afraid of losing, who else is affected, what it is costing, and what has quietly changed while you were not looking.
An hour ends just as the real thing appears. A day does not have to tidy it away.
Everyone treats this as stay or go. It has never been only two.
Your boundaries, what you say yes to, how much of yourself you put in. Nothing outside has to change, and nobody has to agree to it. Nobody talks about this one. It is very often the true one.
The hours, the role, the terms, who does what at home. This one needs a conversation with someone, which is usually exactly why it has not happened yet.
On purpose, and cleanly, rather than one day when you have finally had enough.
By the end of the day you will have chosen one of the three, or you will know exactly what has to be found out before you can, and how to find it.
A whole day on one thing, with someone who will not let you move past the difficult part quickly.
I will ask the question you have been steering around, and when you answer it in a sentence you have used before, I will ask it again. At some point you will probably cry, and we will laugh as well, and both of those are completely normal in a day like this.
“I was very surprised how much effort I had to put into the day, and at the end of it I felt shattered. The work we did has shown me how to find the strength within myself.”
R.P.You receive a set of questions to answer. They take a while, and they are meant to. I read them properly, so that on the day we start where you actually are.
Seven hours, including a full hour for lunch and real breaks. Four parts.
The situation you arrive with is not always the one that needs solving. We separate what is true from the story that has grown around it, and we look at what this has already cost, which is often the part that has never been said out loud.
The real choice, not the polite version, and not two options when a third has been missing. We look at each direction through fear and through love, and against the long view of your life rather than the next six weeks.
What you will say, the line you will hold, the thing you will do, and when. You say it out loud, with a date on it.
The pull back to the old pattern comes, whether that is on the way home or the following Tuesday. We name it before it arrives, so you recognise it and know what to do.
You write it all down as we go, in your own words. What you write is yours.
For four weeks you can message me on WhatsApp while you take that first move and meet whatever comes back. Monday to Friday, an answer within one working day. Usually a lot faster, like a few minutes.
We sit down for an hour and go through what actually happened, adjust where it needs adjusting, and set what continues.
For more than 20 years, I have worked with leaders, founders, and senior professionals from more than 80 nationalities all over the world. I have run private days like this since 2015.
What you are paying for is not information. You have plenty. It is a day in which this finally gets taken far enough, with someone who can see the whole of it at once, who will say the true thing even at the risk of you not liking it, and who is still there at the moment you move.
I will tell you honestly what I see. The seeing and the choosing stay yours.
“Andrea has cleverly kept full responsibility with myself and my own actions.”
Jitka P.One woman’s day
A sales director arrived close to resigning, because she could not hold the job, her family and herself at the same time. Afterwards she wrote that she had gone “from theory in my head to concrete steps”: slowing her pace, resting, letting go of what did not feed her, handing back some of what she had been carrying alone. She stayed. And it held.
“I exist. I am allowed to long for things. I want to live this.”
a private client, at the end of her day“Spending a day with Andrea working on my personal issues has changed my life. I am now so confident, assertive and at the same time somehow more relaxed that I sometimes don’t recognise myself. The unexpected bonus is a much better work life balance.”
F.L.“It was like looking in the mirror and asking: how come I haven’t seen this more clearly? How come I didn’t connect the dots that have always been there? Maybe I never dared.”
Eva F.By the time a woman books one of these, she has usually given it more hours than anyone around her knows.
Waiting is not neutral.
It is not a pause, and it is not the safe option, though it is very good at looking like one. It takes a piece of every week. It sits underneath decisions that have nothing to do with it and quietly bends them. It costs the version of this that was still small, the conversation that would have taken twenty minutes two years ago. And at some point it stops being yours to decide, because someone else moves first, or the window closes, and time settles it instead.
Most of the women I have sat with had already paid far more for the waiting than the day cost. They just paid it slowly, so it never felt like a cost.
The whole of it, one to one. The preparation, the full day, the four parts, the month of WhatsApp support and the hour four weeks later. Online over Zoom, or in person by arrangement.
No more than three women. Each of you brings her own situation and works on it. The preparation, the four parts, the month of support and the final hour are all the same. The group stays together throughout.
Book a small-group dayI open only a small number of dates at a time. The booking calendar shows them in your own time zone, and payment is made in full when you book.
If you know you want the day and are not sure which way, talk to me first.
The fee is not refundable, and that is deliberate. Paying in full is the first act of the commitment this day asks of you. One free reschedule, with at least seven days’ notice, to another available date of the same kind.
