A private one-day intensive
One woman. One situation. One full day.
You leave knowing what the real issue actually is, the decision or a direction you can trust, the order you will do it in, and the first move with a date on it.
One to one, with me, all day. Leaders, founders and senior professionals.
I open only a small number of dates at a time.
“I had been stuck on a very important life-altering decision for some time, and it was beginning to seem like I would never resolve it. A friend recommended Andrea, so I called her. Ten days later I found myself flying to Prague, wondering if I had gone completely mad. Afterwards I could clearly see what I needed to do.”
a private client, after one of these daysIt might be:
It does not have to be a crisis. It only has to be something you do not want to be still living with a year from now.
Bring it as it comes. It does not need to be tidy.
You have probably read the things, asked the two or three people whose judgement you trust, made the list with the two columns, and typed the whole of it into a machine at eleven at night.
None of that is wasted. It is also not what moves anyone. Knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different problems, and almost all of the help out there is for the first one.
In my experience, what stops you is almost never the thinking. It is what it would cost. Who it would disappoint. A promise you made a long time ago and have never taken back.
Talking to a machine costs nothing and ends nothing. It is patient for ever, at any hour, which sounds like kindness and is the whole problem. It will let you go round this for another year and never once make you stop.
The machine hands you a map. Just that. I get you to decide, and to take the first step.
What looks like a circle is usually a spiral. Each turn sits a little higher than the last, which is why you know more now than you did a year ago, and why it can still feel like the same place.
If another book, another conversation or a better question could have settled this, it would have been settled by now.
A day is long enough for the whole thing to come into the room: what you say you want, what you are afraid of losing, who else is affected, what it is costing, and what has quietly changed while you were not looking.
An hour ends just as the real thing appears. A day does not have to tidy it away.
Most women come to me with two: stay or go. There is nearly always a third, and it is very often the one nobody has said out loud.
Your boundaries, what you say yes to, how much of yourself you put in. Nothing outside has to change, and nobody has to agree to it. Almost nobody considers this one, even though it is always there.
The hours, the role, the terms, who does what at home, what your family carries between them. This one needs a conversation with someone, which is usually exactly why it has not happened yet.
Leave it, hand it over, or end it. By your decision and on your timing, not because one day you have finally had enough.
By the end of the Day you will have chosen one of them. If the honest answer is that something has to be found out first, you will know what it is and how to find it.
You will spend the whole of it on one thing, with someone who will not let you move past the difficult part quickly. I will say what I see, including the parts that are not comfortable to hear.
“I was very surprised how much effort I had to put into the day, and at the end of it I felt shattered. The work we did has shown me how to find the strength within myself.”
R.P.You receive the questionnaire. It takes a while, and it is meant to. I read it properly, so that on the Day we start where you actually are.
Seven hours, live on Zoom, with a full hour for lunch and real breaks. We work in four parts.
We take the situation you are bringing and look at it from every angle, including the ones you have not had the distance to see. We separate what is true from the story that has grown around it, and we look at what it has already cost you, which is often the part that has never been said out loud.
We put your options side by side, including the ones you have not counted. Then we take each one seriously: what it would really cost you, which one you would be choosing out of fear, and what your life would look like on the other side of it. We measure them against your whole life, not the next six weeks. This is the real choice, not the polite version of it.
Once you have decided, we work out what you will actually do, and in what order. Then we get the very first thing ready: what you will say, who you will say it to, and the day you will do it.
For most people the doubt arrives a few days later. You start wondering whether you decided too fast, or you find a good reason why the first move can wait another week. We name that before you leave, so you recognise it when it comes and know exactly what to do.
You write it all down as we go, in your own words. What you write is yours.
For four weeks after the Day you have me on WhatsApp. Ask me anything, whenever you need to, while you make the first move and deal with whatever comes back. That is part of the pull-back plan too. You are not doing the hardest part on your own.
At the end of those four weeks we sit down for an hour, go through what actually happened, adjust what needs adjusting, and set what continues. You get that date when you book, so both days are in your diary from the start.
I am a private adviser. Leaders, founders and senior professionals bring me the decisions they cannot take to anyone else. I have been doing this work for more than twenty years, across over eighty nationalities and more than twenty industries, and running private days like this since 2015.
What you are paying for is not information. You have plenty of that. You are paying for a day with someone who has sat with this kind of decision many times before, and who is still there when you make the first move.
More often than not there is an option you cannot see from inside it. Finding that is part of the work.
I will tell you what I see, even when it is not what you want to hear. What you decide is yours.
“Andrea has cleverly kept full responsibility with myself and my own actions.”
Jitka P.One woman’s day
A sales director arrived close to resigning, because she could not hold the job, her family and herself at the same time. Afterwards she wrote that she had gone “from theory in my head to concrete steps”: slowing her pace, resting, letting go of what did not feed her, handing back some of what she had been carrying alone. She stayed. And it held.
“I exist. I am allowed to long for things. I want to live this.”
a private client, at the end of her day“Spending a day with Andrea working on my personal issues has changed my life. I am now so confident, assertive and at the same time somehow more relaxed that I sometimes don’t recognise myself. The unexpected bonus is a much better work life balance.”
F.L.“It was like looking in the mirror and asking: how come I haven’t seen this more clearly? How come I didn’t connect the dots that have always been there? Maybe I never dared.”
Eva F.You have already given this more hours than anyone around you knows.
Most of them at the wrong time of day. In the car, at four in the morning, in the middle of a meeting about something else.
And it is not only the hours. You say no to things you would have said yes to, because you do not know where you will be next year. The conversation that would have taken twenty minutes two years ago is a much bigger conversation now.
At some point the decision stops being yours. Someone else moves first, or the door closes, and time settles it for you.
Do you want to be in the same place in ten years? In twenty?
Most of the people I have sat with had already paid far more for the waiting than the day cost. They paid it slowly, so it never felt like a cost. Then one day it did, all at once.
You leave knowing what the real issue actually is, the decision or a direction you can trust, the order you will do it in, and the first move with a date on it.
You pay in full when you book. The calendar shows the day in your own time zone.
If you would rather talk to me first, book a Let’s talk call. It is thirty minutes and it is free. You are not expected to book anything at the end of it.
The fee is not refundable. Paying in full is the first act of the commitment to yourself. If, after reading your answers, I do not think this day is right for what you are bringing, I will tell you before the Day and return your payment in full. You can reschedule once, with at least seven days’ notice, to another available date within three months. If something serious happens, write to me.
